Originally posted on Facebook - May 16, 2011
The latest issue of the United Church Observer features a cover story on social media and its role in worship, spirituality, and salvation (Kevin Spurgaitis - "Alone Together"). It's one in a long line of such examinations that have, from their inception, left me bewildered and tired. I would find myself asking, "What does it matter?" What's the big deal?
This latest article ultimately, after stating both sides of the "controversy" in the strongest possible terms (which, frankly, borders on exaggeration) comes to the conclusion that what we are facing is a change in form and not of content. Actually, I take that back. The article lays all of the groundwork for that conclusion, then ultimately fails to conclude at all.
I think I've finally figured out what the big deal is. My epiphany came earlier today as I was making a photocopy of an old United Church of Canada resource pamphlet (Patricia Wells - "Welcome to the United Church of Canada: A Newcomer's Introduction to A New Creed", ca 1980). Wells writes on page 2 of the pamphlet: "The loneliness of modern life has become a cliche..."
"Ah, modern life," I thought to myself as I warmed up the copier. "How lonely it was." You see, I am not living a modern life. As a person who grew up in the last gasps of the Cold War and came of age after the events of Tiananmen Square and the Gulf War, I am living a decidedly post-modern life. "The modern world" made certain promises - which it failed to uphold. Technology will solve our problems, it said. Democracy is fair and just, it said. There is one best way to do things and progress is revealing it to us, it said. The ongoing collapse of modernity is leaving a different world in its wake, and I am a citizen of post-modernity. The post-modern world is still defining itself, but it is characterized by an emphasis on pluralism and a distrust of metanarratives - stories that tell us who we are and how we fit in, and which often serve to 'colonize' or disenfranchise us.
Henri Nouwen, in 1972's The Wounded Healer, analyzed the situation of what he called "Nuclear Man" - the human being who has the potential and the capacity to destroy all of creation and all of history in an instant. Nouwen proposed that the primary affliction of ministers and the church in the time of "nuclear man" was loneliness. He said that, in the face of annihilation of all that we know, we are overcome with a sense of powerlessness and isolation.
I believe that Nouwen was in fact analyzing the colllapse of self-image of the modern person. The moderns perceived themselves as participating in a greater narrative that would one day come to fruition. In the face of ultimate destruction, and the apparent willingness of prominent individuals to instigate it, this great narrative became flimsy indeed. The succeeding decades would see even greater assaults on that self-image, as progress began to be revealed as something for us to aspire to, rather than an historical inevitability.
It must be said that loneliness still abounds. It will always be a challenge for our communities and our churches, to identify those who are feeling isolated, insignificant, or invisible and find gentle and affirming ways to come alongside them in encouragement and friendship. But, by and large, the primary affliction of the post-modern person is NOT loneliness.
This is the eye-opener I had earlier today. This is why all of the fuss over social media has left me so bewildered. And, I believe this is why the Observer journalist failed to really draw any conclusion at all. The concern about social media as a means of community and redemption comes from a late-modernist point of view - a point of view that tells us that the primary affliction is loneliness and the role of the church is thus to be a community that gives people a social location from which to derive an identity.
"How does online media give a person an adequate social identity?" the late-modern interpreter asks. "How does it help them cope with the loss of self resulting from the collapse of modernism?"
Well, those of us who became ourselves in the wake of that collapse are NOT looking for a social identity. The end of modernism didn't take away our sense of self. Rather, it gave us one. In our world, loneliness (while still a reality) is a matter of PERSONAL, not SOCIETAL concern. Our societal concerns are different. We are looking for meaning in a world with no solid reference points. We are looking for direction in a world with no external reality. The end of the world (through nuclear holocaust, ecological collapse, or astronomical disaster) is something to be combated - but its prospect does not fill us with existential dread. My faith tells me that if I die, humanity goes on; if humanity dies, the globe goes on; if the globe dies, life nevertheless goes on, elsewhere.
Our primary concern is not loneliness and belonging, but emptiness and meaning. In other words, asking whether those who use social media are finding a "proper" sense of belonging is simply to ask the wrong question.
Post-moderns are not looking for belonging. We know where and if we belong.
The question becomes, "Is social media a valid site for finding meaning and direction in a post-modern world?"
The answer to this question is a resounding yes.
That movie was called TRON, and there is currently a sequel in theatres (TRON: Legacy). Oscar-winner Jeff Bridges reprises his dual role as “the Creator” Kevin Flynn and his creation, the program Clu. A few years after his first trip into the computer world, Flynn disappears and leaves his son bereft. The orphaned boy, Sam, now a young man, discovers his father’s secret office and follows him into “cyberspace”. Sam quickly learns that Clu, once his father’s most trusted helper, has become a tyrannical ruler obsessed with purity and perfection. Clu intends to exit cyberspace with an army, and bring his mania for perfection to the outside world. Flynn himself is in exile, for although he is the most powerful individual in cyberspace (he is the Creator after all) he has given much of his power to Clu and can’t oppose him directly without destroying everything.
How do we respond when our desire for perfection is met with unexpected intrusions? The word “perfect” appears many times in the Bible in both the Old Testament/Hebrew Scriptures and the New/Christian Testament. In the Hebrew Scriptures, it is most often used NOT as an attribute but to REFER to an attribute: perfect beauty, perfect knowledge, perfect work, perfect way.
The villain Clu is motivated by feelings of rejection and anger, and his desire for perfection is twisted into a desire for control and purity, and a hatred of all that does not fit into his ordered view of things. Psychologically speaking, perfectionism is related to issues of control and fear. Late in the film, Flynn admits that it was wrong of him to instruct Clu to seek perfection. The Church in various incarnations is also guilty of this mistake. By asking people to fit perfectly into a carefully constructed order, we have misunderstood the scriptures and created psychological trauma.
The story of the film is one of tragic failure, as in pursuing popularity and acceptance Zuckerberg betrays his only friend and surrounds himself with coworkers, and women, who are impressed only by his fame and money. The poignant final scene has him, online, requesting that his former college girlfriend become his Facebook “friend”, and repeatedly refreshing the webpage to see if she has accepted his request. The tragedy is that he had the opportunity to have a real relationship with her, but his misogyny and selfish ambition stood in his way. He continuously chooses the path that will, in fact, prevent him from forming true and fulfilling relationships.
Whether we are Christians or not, whether we believe this is the role of the church or not, there is a lesson here for us. Mark Zuckerberg wanted his gifts and efforts to be recognized, but refused to recognize the inherent value of the people around him. Peter was happy to serve the teacher, but refused to be served as a friend. Both of them misunderstood what it truly means to be in relationship. We must be ready to greet others on all levels – those of the inner child, the inner adult, and the inner parent – and to allow them to greet us likewise. Then, and only then, will intimacy flourish. And that, if you ask me, is the key to the kingdom.
In the movie, experts can build a dream world in their own minds, and introduce an unsuspecting dreamer into that world. They then enter this world themselves, and interact with the dreamer and his or her subconscious. The goal is to extract secrets for corporate espionage or military intelligence.
For those of us who are Christians, this is the role of the cross. It reminds us that we are not living in a perfect dream world, but in a world that contains pain, and shame, and fear - it is, after all, a symbol of violent and public death. By looking at it, or holding it in our hands, we know that this is God’s world, not one that we have built for ourselves. It reminds us that God does not run away from the world. It tells us that the only way to find God is to love the world that God loves.